Stop saying yes (its okay to say no)

Hey friends. ♥

This has been my problem for countless years now, I say yes to practically everything, I either don't have it in my heart to say no, or I feel I might upset somebody when I say it. The number of times I've had very uncomfortable situations when I have to socialize and sometimes yes, it's okay however, I suffer social anxiety, and as you can imagine, these types of situations horrify me. 

So, I've reached that point in my life where I'm not willing to be in those stressful situations anymore. It's so bad for my mental health, my anxiety worsens, my depression creeps back in, and I'm miserable, and if it's even possible a little lonely as I feel nobody can hear me screaming inside. 

I'm going to take charge and think about myself for once, and if I feel like I don't want to do something I'm going to say no because that's okay, nobody will judge me, well at least I hope they won't.

I hope this post can help you in some way and show you it's okay to say no, trust me you'll feel so much better for it. I'm not saying say no all the time, of course, there are times when you have to do something for work, family, or friendships and relationships but, if it's going to make you uncomfortable, don't do it. Even if they don't talk to you for a while so what, you shouldn't have to please everybody all the time. Why should you be miserable for someone else's five minutes of happiness? 

So here are ways you can start to say no 

• Take a step and think for a moment 

Look at the whole situation, will saying yes make you miserable? will saying yes cause you anger? will you regret saying yes?? If you answered no to these questions, then go right ahead do it but, if the answer is no, look them in the eye and say no. If they ask why just say it's your decision, you don't have to do anything you don't want to (okay don't put it quite like that, lol but you get the idea) 

• Be respectful

Don't flat out say, no screw you, I don't want to, explain nicely why you don't want to. Or if you want to do it the old-fashioned way, just say you're washing your hair. But seriously, be polite, listen, and leave the attitude at home.

• Think of another time

Try to arrange another time and place. Usually, the other person will say okay, and it will either never get arranged however, If it does, you can mentally prepare for it. 

• Delay your response

Don't reply for a while, and hopefully, they will get the sense that you're not interested. If you're dealing with them face to face, simply say can I get back to you because I may have plans. This is a good way, if you deal with social anxiety as I do, I'd rather message my response because doing it face to face is terrifying to me. 

So these are a few ways you can say no. Remember, it's perfectly okay to say it, it's better than tagging along feeling judged, laughed at, made fun of, or just ignored. So, I've learned to say no forevermore, unless of course, I have no choice. 

I hope you liked this post, and please comment below if you have or are going to start to say no, and realize although it may cause repercussions so what, people may be angry with you for a few days, but, what's worse feeling miserable? or feeling happy? it's your life nobody else's. 

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Stay safe. ♥